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Indian Marriage Conundrum – How I Hold My Ground as an Unmarried 30–Year–Old Woman.

My mother called me thrice at 8 in the night. I was editing an article and thought something had happened and picked up the third call. And then after some small talk about my writing and if I was ever going to take up a job, she said she wanted to talk about something.

As a thirty-year-old unmarried woman in India, I recognize this something, like dogs can sense tsunamis, for at least five years now. This something — without any exception — is marriage.

To humor her, I asked what did she want to talk about. She said she constantly worried about me and cried often. Because she cannot do anything else. That she didn’t know what my life plans were. That nothing made sense. That I must have been really lonely. Didn’t I like having a family? Was there anybody? That why couldn’t we, mother and daughter, share everything with each other.

These sentences stumbled out of her mouth as she choked.

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An Open Letter From a Privileged Indian Woman to India and The World

International Women’s day was ten days ago. I wanted to post this letter but decided that I did not have to wait for women’s day to say what I want to say. Why I didn’t write this letter before is a question that I don’t have an answer to.

In the world of Putin and the Turkey president Recep Tayyip Erdoğan who said that women, above all, are mothers and they smile even amidst the chaos that their day put them up with and they are victims of their own economic independence and Chinese malls offering discounts to good looking women after their faces have been scanned — I write an open letter to homo sapiens.

My letter is not-independent of geography, age, or culture. We fool ourselves when we say we are unbiased and independent of our circumstances and surroundings.

Shall we begin?

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25 Tips for Learning a Foreign Language

 

Learning a language is a popular bucket list item.

Do you know why?

I would start by telling you that if you know a foreign language, you can travel to that foreign land and even work there and construct your life there. Like if you learn French, you can go to South America, Mexico, Spain, France, and even parts of Switzerland.

You would say that even if I don’t know a language, I can visit any country. So, taking you to the larger picture.

Language is the brain of its culture. It integrates us with its people, their thoughts and beliefs, their religion and festivals, their literature and movies, their jokes, and routine lives.

It makes us understand who they are.

After landing in Chile — the land of notoriously bad Spanish — I had started conversing in Spanish in a couple of weeks. I continued feeling like a foreigner but as I started understanding more Spanish, I got integrated into the lives of the people around me.

Once you know more than one language, your ability to learn another language is even higher; you are aware of more sounds, twists, and turns of the tongue, alphabets, words, and ideas. But most importantly, you develop the ability to switch your thoughts into a different language as soon as someone starts speaking it. You become smarter.

Hell, Homo Sapiens could coordinate and overpower the entire world of animal species, in their own habitat, with the power of language and myths and stories.

Got enough reasons to learn a foreign language?

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Our Sedated Attention: Is Social Media the Drug?

The intent of social media was faster communication, information and opinion sharing, and to connect with people. Soon, social media took over, adding its own nuisances to the ones it had to fix, generating more need for social media — the worst vicious cycle.

Soon is basically 1997 to 2006 — from the world of Six Degrees, a social networking site to Facebook, which needs no description.

Facebook and Twitter bombed the internet in 2006. We have stayed on a data plan, since then.

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I Was One of the Few Women in Computer Science.

Whose shoes shall I wear to mull over James Damore’s memo? By now you would know who is James Damore? An ex-Google employee who got fired as he tried to explain why there are so few women in Computer Science.

Should I be — a class topper who outperformed all boy students in mathematics and physics throughout school, the only female software engineer in a batch of sixty-nine boys, a writer who wants to bring balance into the world, a data driven individual, a laid off former employee of a well-known finance giant, a feminist in denial face, a woman who wants to be called intelligent rather than beautiful, an observer who has seen passionate women around her outperform men specifically in computer science and engineering or someone who acknowledges and accepts the differences between men and women?

None of the above.

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