Some days are harder than others. Everything seems to fall apart on these days.
I could not sleep last night. At 2:50 am, the hour of deepest sleep, I woke up when an intruding mosquito buzzed in my ear. I went to the bathroom, came back, drank some water, and lied down. I was drowsy and it hurt to keep my eyes open. But the first step to sleep was killing the mosquito. After many desperate attempts, I took its life away.
Meanwhile, the brain kept at its activity. The ideas of my mother about me encroached me from all directions. If I think about me the way she does, I start believing that my life is doomed. Then I judged the nooks and corners of my romantic relationship.
In today’s noisy world, choosing what to care about is important.
Our brain neurons still keep sending messages even when we want to stop thinking. Sometimes, it is impossible to control our thoughts.
We hang out with our friends on a Wednesday evening or a Saturday night. We listen to music or Netflix or drink — to take our mind off things we do not want to think about, anymore.
Imagine — if we could be in that chill phase all the time. If we could block the redundant noise.
We think about two kinds of things:
- The ones that are important
- And the ones that are not
Unimportant things cloud our mind like the winter fog. Except that they never clear out even when the sun shines out our window.
Here is some of the fog that we can lift.
Benjamin Franklin needs no introduction.
We all have heard about him but I am not sure how much we really know about his life and activities.
A thinker, inventor, scientist, publisher, writer, diplomat, advisory, soldier, founder of hospitals and libraries, designer of bills, member of the assembly, and more.
You might have skimmed through these words without actually reading them.
I do the same when I read about someone great on Wikipedia — they always seem to have accomplished so much in different areas.
But when you read about their personal life, sometimes their autobiography, you understand that they were also humans like us. You start relating to them.
Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography was one such read.
His disciplines and manners — if practiced — can really shake up the current world and our restless generations.
I went to Chile in July 2016.
Going to South America was the best decision of my life. That vibrant continent added an additional layer in my personality. It was like discovering rosemary suddenly.
I learned so much in those nine months that I would not have in many years in my home country — India.
I started speaking a new language — Spanish, made friends from all over the world, taught English, lived with complete strangers from different continents, ended up loving them, experienced the Latin American culture closely, traveled to places that I had no idea existed, and met people who continue to love me.
The Spanish accent in Orange is the New Black was the initial pull but there is a difference between the fictional world and the real one. In fiction, everything looks glamorous. In reality, it is not.
Except that it was.
South America gave me a new energy and a new outlook.
I did not know all of this when I left. Then why did I leave?